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Why Meditating on Our Mortality Makes Us More Alive

Photo by Laura Vinck on Unsplash We access more light when we don’t deny darkness Forget causality. Forget deserved. Forget sin and karma. I mean, if we really want to pick any of those back up — we can do that. But for now, let’s just imagine not asking ourselves why bad things happen to people. Especially the good […]

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Magic Shows Up When We Make Room For It

Photo by DESIGNECOLOGIST on Unsplash Curb the urge to procrastinate; dare to create before you’re ready A thought experiment: Imagine you get tagged out. You die — suddenly (let’s imagine immediately and painlessly). Everything that was due, all that was unfinished like laundry, bills, projects… nothing you can do about them. You’re not thinking about those things anyway, are […]

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Why Story, Not Science, is Our Best Hope for Surviving 2020

Photo by Frank McKenna on Unsplash The case for choosing fiction over data and identity politics We know a lot of stuff. And there’s so much more stuff, continuously generated, some of it brilliant, some of it noise. We’re living in a zettabyte era (a zettabyte equals 1 sextillion bytes or 1000 exabytes — 1 billion billion bytes). We […]

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All the Smart Intrusions: Death by a Thousand Cuts

Photo by Ashim D’Silva on Unsplash We can’t pretend it’s okay when it’s not This is not about Taylor Swift’s song. This is about living with electronic devices, motivated by yet another unsolicited email. This one isn’t so bad: Photos of Taipai, Dubrovnik, San Francisco skylines… I linger on Cape Town because half of the frame is […]

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Science Can’t Give Us 20/20 Next Election… Not Without Fiction

Photo by Frank McKenna on Unsplash Vonnegut gave us poor Billy Pilgrim for a reason We know a lot of stuff. And there’s so much more stuff, continuously generated, some of it brilliant, some of it noise. We’re living in a zettabyte era (a zettabyte equals 1 sextillion bytes or 1000 exabytes; an exabyte is 1 billion […]

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Tending to Social Justice as a Garden

Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash Community love takes patience, persistence, and long-term perspective Despite pollen, I love spring. Our little house sits on a small yard, almost no grass. The rock-lined paths and mulched areas already overtaken by weeds, sprouting acorns, and creeping vines. Today I decided to pull up what I can, and to […]

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When You Can’t Get a Do-over and You Can’t Get Over It

Photo by Ashton Bingham on Unsplash Turning disappointment into the story you’ll want to live When a toddler squeals, Do it again!, she’s joyfully learning through repetition. When she’s six years old and yells, Do-over!, she either wants to prove that she can do what she wasn’t able to demonstrate moments before, or to argue that the […]

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What We Will Do To Belong

Photo by Jovi Waqa on Unsplash Status, Salvation, and Swastikas: Indoctrination is a group thing I finally found the magazine Annette gave me last month. Annette is one of seven Clemson “sisters” I met through a professional women’s organization in 1989. All eight of us were plenty busy running businesses, careers and families, but we made the […]

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The Cancer of Privileged Expectations

Photo by Pixabay How to kill delusions of getting our way while keeping hope alive “Life’s under no obligation to give us what we expect.” — Margaret Mitchell Everyone has their blind spots. Blame nature, nurture, hard-to-break habits. One of my weaknesses is that I conflate hope and expectation. Just because I really want something and work hard to […]

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The Blur Between Being Friendly and Being a Friend

Photo by Darius Bashar on Unsplash Ellen’s coming out about George started something worth wrestling with The word friend has become really fuzzy. Way before Ellen’s video about being friends with George W. Bush. Yet, strangely, all the social media backlash has brought two questions into focus: What is a friend versus being friendly? Must we […]